So, "Lola", the spurned lover of a wealthy Quebec businessman is now going to the Supreme Court of Canada after being turned down in her claim for alimony and division of assets from the Quebec courts, according to an
article in the Star today.
You may have heard of her, she's the woman receiving only $35,000.00 per month for her two children - and, obviously having difficulty getting by on that, went to Court seeking $50,000.00 per month additional alimony. You know, for milk money.
Problem is, while Lola and her sugar-daddy lived together for seven years, they were never married. And under Quebec law, unlike the pablum being served up throughout the rest of Canada as family law, you are not entitled to alimony or division of assets unless you are, yes, "married".
I don't often compliment what goes on in Quebec, in this case, I take my hat off to their legislature and their judiciary. In the recent decision of the Quebec Superior Court, Judge Carole Hallee ruled that:
"..there wasn't evidence unmarried partners were being discriminated against, and that to recognize all couples in a relationship of permanence as "married" would deny people the choice not to marry."
Read that again, if you missed it.
In Quebec, the Courts understand that whether or not we marry is a "choice". Certainly, nose-wiper advocates like Lola's lawyer, Anne-France Goldwater, argue that, well, Lola wanted to get married, but her sugar-daddy refused.
Really.
Well, Lola, maybe you should have thought of that before you made babies with him. Seems to me, at some point, you had a choice to have sexual relations, you had a choice to decide to live with him or not, and ultimately, you should be more than satisfied that you're receiving grossly excessive child support for your children.
In what can only be described as a comment of her own incredible stupidity, in justifying this continued crusade, her lawyer's comment was, "In this case she has no right to ask for anything, so what this case is about is the right to ask."
Uh, Annie.. to begin with, she had a right to ask not to have sex. To say, "no". Didn't she? She had a right to ask her boyfriend to marry her before she had yet another child, or leave him. Didn't she? At what point, exactly, do we begin to expect something more from ourselves and our neighbors. At what point is there a discussion of personal responsibility for our own welfare?
There is an illness in this Country whose symptoms include an expectation that everyone else is responsible for our own stupid life decisions. Good on Quebec and Judge Hallee for saying, "non".
Perhaps the time has come for some national realization that if we expect less
of our citizens, we will get less
from our citizens. The thought arises that if we not only condone, but in fact reward a lack of personal responsibility, we should expect people to be less responsible. Doesn't that make a modicum of sense? So - if we tell our daughters, "Don't seek to set your own course in life, don't demand more of the men you get involved with, don't worry about the results of uncommitted sexual relationships," we will, in fact, find more women like Lola.
Think about that. A country full of "Lolas".